| Every Bar (or Bat) Mitzvah Needs.......
1) A Rabbi Trained DJ
I was trained by Rabbi Levin in the Hesidic Community of Lakewood NJ in 1987 where I performed at many Mitzvahs & Weddings.
2) An Event Planner
3) A Musical Slide Show Think of it! What greater pleasure would there be then to share with family and friends the highlights of your child's life via a slide show with music . You already have the pictures so why not ?
4) Caring and Loving Parents
Remember:
s to Bigger doesn’t necessarily mean better. Just because the people across the street had an elaborate, glitzy, expensive affair, doesn’t mean you have to as well, unless that’s what you want. You can set a budget, work within your means, and still have an outstanding affair. Don’t succumb to people pushing you into extras that you know you cannot afford. Most good DJs, caterers, etc. should be willing to work with you and offer a variety of options and packages at various price levels.
Listen to your kids. Your kids are the greatest source of information on what’s new and hot on the Bar/Bat Mitzvah circuit. Let them share in the responsibilities of planning their special day. Have them accompany you when you meet with the various vendors, ie., photographers, DJs, caterers, etc. Let them write their own candle lighting ceremony or speech to give at the affair. Have them help with the invitation list. They’ll feel more appreciative of your hard work if they experience some of the work for themselves
=Don’t be afraid to be creative. At age 13, kids are usually very self-conscious about how they dress, what they look like, and how they act. Of course you want to make your child’s day special, but you may feel apprehensive about doing some aspect of the affair differently in fear that your guests will not respond favorably. Consult your child on your ideas and who knows, you may set a new trend or two.
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. At age 13, kids are usually very self-conscious about how they dress, what they look like, and how they act. Of course you want to make your child’s day special, but you may feel apprehensive about doing some aspect of the affair differently in fear that your guests will not respond favorably. Consult your child on your ideas and who knows, you may set a new trend or two.
Leave extra space on the invitation list. When you’ve finished including all the relatives, friends, and kids for your affair, you might want to think about leaving extra openings on your list and ordering extra invitations. You never know when you or your child will be invited unexpectedly to another affair in which it would only be right to reciprocate the gesture. It is usually less expensive to order extra invitations in the initial order, rather than re-ordering at a later time.
. When you’ve finished including all the relatives, friends, and kids for your affair, you might want to think about leaving extra openings on your list and ordering extra invitations. You never know when you or your child will be invited unexpectedly to another affair in which it would only be right to reciprocate the gesture. It is usually less expensive to order extra invitations in the initial order, rather than re-ordering at a later time.
Know what you owe. Many vendors require payment in advance. For those vendors who are being paid the day of the event, have checks pre-written, and carry copies of your contracts with you.
Keep your sense of humor. Planning one of the biggest parties you will ever give is an awesome task. However if you are clear on your expectations, stay within your budget, break large areas into smaller more manageable ones, and look for the humor in challenging situations, you will be a winner. One way to keep your sense of humor is to work with only those you like. This occasion is too important to be spending time with those who are difficult.
Arrange some quiet time. On the day before your party, spend some quiet time by yourself or with your family to keep you from getting too unnerved. Also, on the days following the affair, you may find the need for some down time to bring you back to reality. Treat yourself to a day off – you deserve it.
Don’t forget your P’s and Q’s. While your party staff has had the pleasure of serving you in the planning and carrying our of your affair, it’s always nice for them to receive a special thank you by way of a letter or phone call following your affair. If you felt the service was excellent, tipping is appropriate.
Relax and enjoy the affair. Mazel Tov! You have survived planning a Bar or Bat Mitzvah. You owe it to yourself to take this time to enjoy and savor all the hard work you’ve put into making this day a special one for your son or daughter. After the affair, look forward to the many phone calls you’ll receive about how your affair was absolutely fabulous. Thanks to your dedication, you will have created special memories that will last forever.
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